The Tribune

By Michelle Miller

MANY are quick to change styles when it comes to clothes, hair, bags, cars and other trendy fashions. But when it comes to getting below the surface and addressing the style in which they move through life, they don’t even give it a second thought. 

As a result, many stay stuck in a stale style of living that is, at best, ineffective and unproductive.  

To put it in context, the word ‘style’ speaks to more than just topical fashion. It also refers to our style of approach to life whether we are learning, growing and getting better or just standing still.  The wonderful thing about style is you get to choose your own style and if one style doesn’t work, you can choose another.  

Unfortunately, most people either don’t know they can choose or don’t know how to make a new choice. As such, they stay stuck in a style that has long gone stale. 

Stale style of living leads to a life of being stagnant. You cannot build a better life with an outdated, stale mindset.

When it comes to fashion, changing styles is easy because it’s superficial. However, it takes work to address your style of living. 

This means going beyond what I call ‘icing’ of the matter. Just like frosting on a cake, it’s easy to add new layers of icing to make it look pretty, but beneath it all, there lies the same stale cake.

Let’s get to the question, ‘Are you stuck in the same stale style of living?’ 

Look at your life, are you satisfied with the life you’re living? 

Are you moving towards a set goal? Are you becoming all you can be? Are you better at meeting your challenges? What’s the state of your health and finances? Are you still singing the same old song of hurt, anger, and anxiety? Isn’t it time that you gave your life something new?

Life is not designed to be a stale, stand still experience. It’s about moving, changing and growing. There’s more to see and to do, but it’s all up to you. To elevate your style to a better state, be willing to get away from the pack. Don’t get hung up on the crowd. Know where you’re going and why you’re moving in that direction.  

More importantly, evaluate your word quality. 

Words have power. Thinking and speaking in negative terms produces negative results. Build a positive, softer style in which to meet life. Life follows your thoughts – toxic thinking produces toxic living. Bitter words tend to keep you prisoner to the past. High quality language is the key to living with a sense of freedom.

As I said, life is not a stale, stand still experience. Everything moves. You are born to move and reach higher. Unshackle yourself from that outmoded, ineffective, stale style of living. 

The longer you stay stuck in that stale state the more frustrating life will be. Now is the time to get up and get on with recharging your life. 

Time is fleeting and you are getting older. Commit to renewing your style so that you can live with confidence rather than uncertainty.

Change may be a challenge but your life is worth the effort. Don’t wait for the group. Most people will only complain. They are not willing to do what it takes to unstuck their life. 

You are not most people; be willing to act on your own power.

From leader to leader, make today the day that you get out of that stuck state. Elevate your life to a more effective style of living.

In so doing, you can confidently live the life that you love.

What do you think? Send comments questions to coaching242@yahoo.com.

• Michelle M Miller is an author, certified life coach and leadership expert. Questions or comments can be sent to coaching242@yahoo.com or telephone 429-6770.