The Tribune

By MICHELLE MILLER

HOW different would your life be if you had the unstoppable confidence to take it to the next level? 

For most people, life as they know it would change in so many amazing ways.

The fact of the matter is next level living is possible but the lack of confidence is holding many people back. This is because confidence is one of the more crucial ingredients in any recipe for success, happiness and fulfilment. It directly affects your sense of well-being; so much so that the lack of confidence often make you more prone to stressful related problems, such as weight issues, anxiety and low self-esteem. All of which influence your capacity to perform at your best. 

Everything you do or fail to do is driven by your sense of confidence and belief in yourself. I see self-confidence as the cemented pillars of our inner strength that supports us in going for gold or reaching for the stars.

The fact is without confidence we lose momentum; we lose power. Personal confidence is the result of believing not only in yourself, but believing that you have something within you worth believing in.

So how do you develop your muscle of confidence? You begin by gaining a sense of clarity about who you are and the amazing qualities that you embody. Clarity is the only path to confidence. 

If you are unclear about what you know about yourself – your strengths, qualities and your unlimited potential – your quest for unstoppable confidence remains a journey of frustration.

Most people may think that confidence is something they can purchase. Hence, they become trapped in the rat race of pursuing material things – cars, houses, higher education, titles and or accolades. Yet after achieving all the things money can buy, most people are still without that sense of confidence. The reason is simple. Confidence comes from within. It is an internal quality that you develop based on your sense of self-awareness, understanding and acceptance. 

When you know who you are and the wonderful gifts you bring to the table, nobody or nothing can stop you. But you must be willing to do the work. Begin now by cutting ties with the lies and half-truths you’ve been living in. Most of which come from others who themselves have a lack of confidence. Get away from the negative train station where people are trying to sell you on your perceived your shortcomings rather than your strengths.    

Find positive places in which to grow. Recognise that those who obsessively focus on the problem seldom have any real solutions. As such, they cannot take you beyond where they have been; they cannot support your desire to grow forward. People who spend most of their time finding fault lack confidence within; it is this lack of belief in themselves that leads them to being underachievers, taking less risks and not throwing their ball of possibility very far.

You are different. As a reader of this article you have much bigger dreams. Deep inside you are yearning to live for a higher purpose and to play a bigger role.

For this reason you must not allow the lack of confidence to hold you back. Be willing to do the work by investing in your personal growth; peel the layers of lies and gain the clarity necessary for you to unleash your unstoppable confidence.

In my fearless coaching sessions my main message is, ‘having unstoppable confidence empowers you to be fearless in the face of any challenge’. It boosts your personal performance and is the chief ingredient for living the life you love. Make today the day that you become confident – fearless and free.

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Michelle M Miller is a certified life coach and leadership expert.