The Tribune

By JEFFARAH GIBSON

Tribune Features Writer

jgibson@tribunemedia.net

SINCE February is considered the month of love and Valentine’s Day is just a week away, many couples are on a quest to find the perfect gift that reflects their feelings for their significant other. 

And while this practice has its place in a relationship, sometimes too much focus is placed on material gifts that do not add real value to the union. 

Life coach and relationship therapist Stanya Davis suggests that couples focus on giving something more meaningful to their love lives by becoming the best versions of themselves. 

Ms Davis said by focusing on being a healthier and happier individual you are able to give your relationship the best chance at survival in the long term. 

This month, Ms Davis’ coaching institute, Eve’s Journey, will host a series of events designed to help people heal certain aspects in their lives that might be hurting interaction in their relationships. 

“What we want to do is offer introspective events for people to heal the part of their lives that need healing. We decided to focus on relationships this month because the search for love is the search for self. For the most part we find ourselves and find out who we are when we are in relationships. We learn what baggage we have, what we can deal with, how to compromise and how to forgive. In relationships we see ourselves just as we are. We see where our pain is because most of our issues rise to the surface when we are in relationships with others,” she told Tribune Woman. 

Eve’s Journey has dedicated this month to love, loving oneself and being a healthy person. 

“We want to concentrate on being healthy so that we can have a healthy relationship. A lot of times we talk about not finding the right man or right woman. They can come, but if we are not healed and if we are not doing the necessary work, we won’t appreciate that good person when they arrive,” said Ms Davis.

Love Lessons

One of two major events Eve’s Journey will host is ‘Love Lessons’, a monthly series where speakers will be invited to talk on a myriad of issues that affect people and relationships. 

The event will also feature a live interview with author Nekisha Rolle who recently released “Broken Wings: From Hurt to Hope”.  

“We will focus on relationship depression and how to navigate an unhealthy relationship – how to let go of it – and how to let go of depression caused by relationships,” said Ms Davis.

“One thing I have realised is that relationship depression is right up there with death. You go through the same stages of grief as you go through the end of a relationship, and we have decided to focus on this because we realise we have issues letting go.”

Love Lessons is a two-part event that will also feature a healing workshop. “It is also a teaching module to show people how to let go, forgive and love themselves just as they are,” she said.

A ‘Love Lessons’ session will held on February 17. A venue and time will be announced later. 

Love’s House 

Even though Eve’s Journey caters specifically to women, the coaching institute also encourages fellowship with men. ‘Love’s House’ is an event for both men and women that will feature “soulmate storytelling”. 

“People sharing how they met their soulmates and how they kept their love alive throughout the years. The night is also about seductive poetry. We have an artist who will be sharing. She will focus on how to spice it up in the bedroom, how to keep your mate sexually satisfied,” said Ms Davis.

She said this event will give couples an opportunity for intimacy with one another and to learn how to make their love last. 

“It is a night of connecting with your loved one; it is a night of feeling loved. And we are doing this because a lot of the times the focus is on singles. People have events for singles but nothing for married people. We want to know from couples who have been together for some time what the secret is and what they are doing that we are not doing. It is an awesome night for singles, for girlfriends to come and do something different. At the end of the night people will learn,” she said.

‘Love’s House’ will be held on February 25. A time and venue will be announced.

For more information contact 328-8668, 451-6767 or e-mail journeytoeve@gmail.com.